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Holding onto resentment often hurts the person carrying it more than the one who caused it.
means The ongoing state of withholding forgiveness and nursing a grievance against someone who wronged you.
from A straightforward negation — 'un-' plus 'forgiveness,' which traces back to Old English 'forgiefan,' meaning to give up, give completely, or grant pardon. The 'for-' prefix intensified the giving, so forgiveness was literally a total, unconditional giving-over of a debt or wrong. 'Unforgiveness' simply blocks that transaction — the ledger stays open, the debt uncancelled.
- actual cost
- keeps you chained to the exact moment you were hurt
- biology
- chronic grudges elevate cortisol and blood pressure for years
- disguise
- often wears the mask of justice or self-protection
- irony
- the offender often forgets while you relive it nightly