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Soft drawl, iron spine — kindness that could also end you.
means A person, usually a Southern woman, whose gentle, gracious manner masks (and sometimes armors) real toughness and resolve.
from Popularized by the 1987 play and 1989 film 'Steel Magnolias,' set among Southern women in a Louisiana beauty parlor. The magnolia, a delicate, fragrant Southern bloom, is paired against steel to capture a contradiction people had long sensed but hadn't named: flower-soft manners wrapped around unbendable will. The phrase existed in scattered use before the film, but the movie is what fixed it permanently in the language.
- origin
- 1989 film coined the phrase for the south
- archetype
- grief and grit hidden behind good manners
- tactic
- smiles first, wins the argument later
- misread
- delicate looking, structurally load-bearing