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Love that forgot the other person is not property.
means A clinginess that treats a person's time, attention, or affection as something to be owned and guarded rather than freely given.
from Traces to Latin possidere, 'to have in one's control, to hold' — from potis (able, having power) plus sedere (to sit). The image is literally of sitting firmly on something, planted and unmoving, as if occupying it makes it yours. The -ive and -ness are later English dressing, turning a legal/physical idea of holding land or goods into a trait of the heart — the grammar still carries faint courtroom air, as if love were something you could file a deed for.
- disguise
- calls itself devotion to avoid calling itself fear
- root cause
- insecurity wearing a very confident costume
- tell
- asks where you were, not how you are
- irony
- tightening grip is exactly what makes people leave