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the voice that loves you but refuses to phrase it that way
means Rough, brusque, or harsh in voice or manner, especially in a way that's stern but not necessarily unkind.
from From the Dutch and Low German 'grof,' meaning coarse, thick, or rude — the same family of words used for unrefined cloth or rough surfaces. English borrowed it around the 16th century, first describing textures you could feel, then sliding naturally to voices and manners you could hear. A cousin, possibly, of the same Germanic root that gives 'gross' its sense of thick and unrefined.
- old root
- From Dutch grof, meaning coarse or thick
- texture first
- Originally described rough surfaces, not rough moods
- sound match
- The word itself growls when you say it
- soft center
- Usually paired with secretly tender in fiction
barry white — singer known for his deep, gravelly speaking voice that became his trademark from the 1970s onward
sam elliott — actor famous for his raspy, gruff drawl in films like mask (1985) and the big lebowski (1998)
tom waits — musician with an intentionally rough, gravelly voice that he cultivated starting in the 1980s