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Reading someone's nervous system before they've said a word, and answering it anyway.
means The state of being closely tuned in to another person's (or your own) emotional and physical state, often without anything being said aloud.
from Built from 'attune' — 'at' plus 'tune,' the same 'tune' as in musical tuning — originally meaning to bring one thing into harmony or pitch with another, like adjusting an instrument until it rings true with its neighbor. The '-ment' tacks on to make it a state or process. So attunement is literally 'tuning toward' — the word carries its own metaphor: nervous systems as instruments quietly finding the same key.
- origin
- from tuning musical instruments to match pitch
- not
- agreement; you can be attuned and still disagree
- therapy term
- caregiver matching infant's emotional state precisely
- breaks
- when someone fixes your feeling instead of feeling it