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Someone who repeatedly hurts or controls another person, often someone who trusted them.
means A person who repeatedly uses power, force, or manipulation to harm, control, or exploit someone else.
from From 'abuse,' tracing back through French to Latin 'abusus'/'abuti' — 'ab-' (away) plus 'uti' (to use) — literally 'to use up' or 'use wrongly.' The Latin sense covered everything from misusing words to squandering money; English narrowed 'abuser' over time toward its grimmest sense, the one naming a person who turns use into harm.
- pattern not incident
- abuse is a strategy repeated, not a one-off outburst
- charm phase
- often the most charming person in the room, deliberately
- isolation tactic
- cuts you off from friends before the real control starts
- escalation risk
- leaving is statistically the most dangerous moment